The choice you’ve avoided. Read this first

Should I sign up for this new course?

Which choice is right for me? 

Do I say yes to this opportunity? 

What should I do about this problem? 

Do I want to do this? 

Which mattress should I buy? 

Have you ever felt miserable knowing you need to make a decision? Perhaps you're stuck in agony or guilt from avoiding it.  Maybe you're feeling the stress of the pressure to hurry up and make it.  Or maybe you still regret a choice you made before, and you’re afraid you’ll make the wrong one again. 

If we were all in a room together, I’d ask you to raise your hand if you’ve felt this way, and I bet we’d see a lot of hands go up. 

Let me affirm- adulting can be exhausting when you’ve had to make decision after decision. 

So today, here are a few ideas on what to do when you are stuck in decision limbo. 

Name what’s making the decision hard.

When you can identify the real reason you’re stuck, your mind can step out of the loop and see things more clearly. 

Try finishing the sentence: It’s difficult because…. 

• It might disappoint someone
• Both options are unappealing
• Deciding means I’ll have to move forward.
• I’d have to face something I’d rather avoid
• Fear of missing out
• Fear of making the wrong choice 
• I’m overwhelmed and uninformed 
• I’m already in decision fatigue.

Wait it Out

Sometimes the wisest choice is no choice — yet. Sleep on it.

My “authority” in Human Design is emotional, which means I often need to ride the wave of feelings until I reach a neutral place. Then I can see the path more clearly.

Talk it Out

Find a trusted friend and share the situation. When you’re feeling uninformed or dreading all the options, an outside perspective can spark magical “third options” you hadn’t considered.

We often forget: the choices in front of us aren’t the only ones that exist. We can co-create with the universe, ask for help, and think outside the box.

Trust Yourself ( and watch out for the “good girl trap”) 

Sometimes we already know what’s right for us, but we second-guess it because it might disappoint someone, we crave validation, or we get swept up in FOMO. 

The good girl trap can look like: 

You don’t want to make waves, cause a fuss

You want people to like and approve of you

You ask for advice and then feel obligated to take it, even if it doesn’t feel right. 

Remember, you are the one who lives with your choice. You know your needs, desires, and limits the best. Trust in your knowing. 

And if the “Wishy Washy” gremlin in your head is keeping you from deciding, remember that your decision activates your vision.

Once you pick a path, you create momentum.  With that momentum comes clarity. New opportunities and insights will emerge to guide you as you start moving. 

This week’s experiment: 

Notice if you get stuck in decision limbo

Name what’s hard 

Try one of these strategies and see if momentum, relief, or peace follows. 

DM me and tell me about your decision limbo.