We can’t be everything to everybody.
Ugh, I can’t tell you how often I’ve had to remind myself of this.
I hate it because part of me really wants to be EVERYTHING.
But, part of me also wants to sit on the couch, read a book, and eat snacks (especially the Lesser Evil Himalayan Sweetness Organic Popcorn-it’s so good).
These two parts create an inner conflict I’m very familiar with.
In the past month, several client conversations have centered around feeling bad, feeling guilty, and not enough. They, too, were having an inner conflict. This has shown up in all facets of life- parenting, romance, work, caretaking, business, marriage, and friendship.
The more demands on your time and energy, the more you may feel conflicted.
Part of you wants to say yes. Part of you wants to say no.
As someone who is conditioned to be a conflict avoider, to be quiet, compliant, good, and also an introvert, the struggle is real!
So, when you feel conflicted about what to do or the decision makes you feel bad or guilty, I recommend taking a deeper look at what’s happening for you.
When my clients and I unpack their situation, we may find something like…
The first question to ask yourself is, what are you avoiding feeling? When we have more awareness about what’s going on instead of just labeling the feeling as bad or guilty, we have more access to work with our thoughts and make a more aligned decision.
Here’s another big question to ask when it comes to the decision.
Are you choosing discomfort or resentment?
Are you choosing the discomfort of what you’ve been avoiding?
Disappointing someone, saying no, taking care of yourself, holding a boundary, being vulnerable, honoring your desires, stepping outside your comfort zone.
Or are you choosing resentment with others and yourself later because you didn’t?
These are big questions to consider. And very brave. You can’t be everything to everybody. But today, you can be there for yourself.
Remember, it’s a process. We’re all learning.
You’re doing great.
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