Essence Blog

For the past two months,  I’ve been intentionally focused on adding a few things into my day and doing them consistently.

I’m getting morning light on my balcony while also doing my reflective journaling, pulling an oracle card, and planning the week/day.

I’ve been getting more movement to counteract sitting, and I'm taking walks after meals.

I’ve also been trying to eat dinner earlier to support my stricter “lights off/screens off” bedtime. 

These changes didn’t come from an ...

On May 16th, I boarded a flight to Barranquilla, Colombia, to a place that wasn't on my bucket list, for a trip I almost didn't take, with one of my best friends. It turned out to be exactly what I didn't know I needed.

Here's how it happened.

In late April, my coach asked me what three things I wanted in 2026. At the top of my list: a real vacation. Not a long weekend but a full week away. But between schedules, work, and the general chaos of life, it had stayed stuck in the "someday" c...

When you have an inner nudge to go after your dream, passion, a creative idea, or simply try to listen to the stirring in your soul, there is that spot in your heart that is a little tender, a little fragile, a little vulnerable.  

And protecting that tenderness is important because the dream is important. But it’s the kind of important that you can’t explain in terms of status, success, or money. It’s important because it’s connected to your heart, your essence, your deep desires, and what ...

 I grew up believing that success, approval, and love were tied to “doing your best.” 

Trying your hardest and doing your best was good. If you didn’t, it could mean you were not living up to your potential or, worse, were lazy. 

Can you feel the pressure and harm that living inside this binary caused us? We were either living in fear of being a disappointment and felt the pressure to be enough, or we believed we were already a disappointment and couldn't be enough.

I remember when Eth...

I am fortunate to have deep conversations with women, and I can tell you they are holding so much in their hearts, minds, and bodies right now. Hardships, health issues, grief and loss, estrangement, pain, pressure, stress, fear, and uncertainty.

I believe that most of us, if not all of us, are carrying something heavy for ourselves and for those we love and support.  And that is on top of the despair and worry over what is happening in our world and in the country.

Today, I want to sh...

I got bamboozled and wasted $47.

My inner critic says I "should have known better," as it feels embarrassing, but perhaps hearing the story might help someone avoid it. 

I was scrolling through Instagram and saw an ad for a comprehensive guide to gathering people together and creating a soul-level experience. This intrigued me because it's a topic I'm passionate about, and I desire to become masterful in it. The sales page described a psychology-backed method by a female with a doctorate in c...

Things are a lot right now. How is your heart? ♡

As the Epstein files continue to reveal more horror, we are seeing how the corruption of power and greed and dark danger we’ve feared yet have always known about deep down are being exposed in real time. And it's disillusioning, destabilizing, and in some ways vindicating.

There is, and there should be, fallout in the spiritual, personal development, and wellness worlds as we watch gurus (like Deepak Chopra) fall from their pedestals. And it'...

To close out 2025 in review and reflection. I’ve started taking stock of the highlights, acknowledgments, and some of my favorite things from the past year.

Tomorrow I’ll curl up and dive into my favorite parts of the Reflection Ritual.  Perhaps you, too, will get some time to reflect on the highlights, challenges, and lessons of 2025. 

✨ Highlights of 2025:

• 50th Birthday weekend with Amara
• Leading a special 50th Birthday Ritual to honor my friend Heather during her girls' trip to the mou...

The day after Thanksgiving, Ethan flew to NYC to make one of his big dreams come true.  Performing in NYC. It was his first time flying alone and managing public transportation, which he did with ease.  

He was cast in a cabaret show of all 70s songs with 19 performers and 17 numbers. He was given one solo and 4 group numbers. The thing is, 17 of his fellow performers had been practicing together in person because they were local.  Ethan was flying in; he didn’t know anyone. He hadn’t rehearsed...

We all want to find more moments of fulfillment in our work and in our lives. That statement feels obvious, I know. And yet, finding that sweet spot, the place where what we do feeds us instead of drains us, can be surprisingly elusive.

Especially when you…

• Work for someone else and feel disconnected from the bigger picture
• Have a job you don’t love but can’t yet leave
• Or even when you work for yourself, you feel depleted or overwhelmed trying to make it all work.
  

So, what does fu...